Even though I’m late with the post because I’m not feeling my best. If you knew to the post, You’ll see this post more than once, but with number at the end of it. đŸ™‚ If you havent read the other post with the same title, please do check them out.
So the question today is WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU KNEW THE TRUTH ABOUT YOUR BESTFRIEND BETTER HALF? Would you keep it to yourself? I ask this question because I have been in this predicament a few times. I lost a friend in the process because of the truth. I have had other friends tell me they would want to know whats what. I never though I would lose a friendship over this, but sad to say I lost one and it’s not the same. Sad thing about it, we are related. I kept the truth to myself because she was so happy, but then it started eating me up and I finally decided to open my mouth. Guess I should’ve kept my mouth close huh?
I love to hear what you all think!
Poets Afterthought 
This is a tough one PJ, because the same thing once happened to me, too. I told one of my friends the truth of her husband cheating, so did others. She stopped speaking to any of us for a long time, until she decided to give the husband the boot! So awkward and sad, it hasn’t happened again, but it is hard to keep our mouth shut. Who wants to see a friend being hurt, after all. I would probably do the same thing again, even at the risk of losing a friend. Isn’t honesty best for the friend’s sake? Watch other people answer this and comment the exact opposite of me!
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Gabby,
Glad you been honesty, I believe honesty is the best way to go when it comes to trying to protect them. I would tell it again as well, but she not with the guy anymore! Me and my cousin still not close like we use to be, but i have learn to accept it for what it is! I would want someone to tell me the truth. I agree its a tough one, I had to pick what topic to run with today or should I say tonight, since I have so much medication in me. But I felt like this one would be a good one to go with.I’m pretty sure I can say so much on this topic! Feel like I’m talking to much. lol
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I do agree with Gabby đŸ™‚ It’s sad but true, I would tell no matter what. Being honest about it all is just for the best and PJ your cousin will figure it out. You aren’t talking too much đŸ˜‰
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Autumn,
I believe thats what we should do tell no matter what! I believe she now realizing, she have made the step to get in touch with me. But its different now! Thank you for coming through and sharing your opinions. God Bless đŸ™‚
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Hey PJ!! I know that you had given this award to me but I am giving it back to you … I just love your attitude, your site, and of course… your strength…
So I am passing this award to you… because like you said to me… YOU DESERVE IT!! : ) smile
The details as you already have are on my site.. or you can copy from yours
http://jhasmoments.wordpress.com/2011/12/26/seven-x-seven-link-award/
Congrats PJ!!
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Awww thank you Jhasmoments for your kind words, touch my heart! God Bless You đŸ™‚
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The way I see it….Truth is always hard and difficult to handle…and also when you know it you bear the responsibility of it. I think that when you hold the truth in your hands. seek God first before you reveal something. Sometimes, it reveals itself before you say anything. At the same time, the Truth has to be revealed despite the consequences. You’ve got to ask yourself, If I don’t say anything what will the ramifications of my actions or inactions be? Is losing a friend to the truth more important than the truth itself? You may save the person from the truth at the price of your relationship which is the reality of the situation, but I think the truth revealed is the best thing because living a deceived life give more room for more bad things to happen. Wisdom is required but truth must be revealed no matter what the end result maybe. I know it may hurt, but sometimes you have to do the job that you don’t want to do in order for someone to become free. They may not like what they hear but living a lie is much worse in my opinion. What do you think?
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I agree living a lie is worse, and I was living it by not saying something when I should have said something. Dang that do sound like I just repeated myself!
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Hi PJ,
I also agree with Gabby and Autumn..I would be honest with my friend and hope he/she would see the truth, either sooner or later, at least…it is a tough question, though, because, either way, your friend’s going to get hurt, either when finding out the truth from “you” or later. It’s really just a matter of time~I hope this makes sense, because my head is stuffy! Things will work out, but how and when is the toughest part not to know in the beginning. Take care and I’m sending prayers and hugs your way~
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Lauren,
Yea you right, either way it went down they would’ve got hurt. You right its a tough question and it was difficult situation for me, while it ate me up! I got tired of it eating at me. I believe I did the right thing, I would want someone to do the same for me. đŸ™‚
Thank You for sharing your thoughts and sending prayers my way. I’ll keep you updated. God Bless đŸ™‚
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There comes a time when, after we make a decision, we have to “let go and let God” right? I know it’s so hard, sometimes, and I believe even those with the strongest faith, find it tough, too. I would have done the same! Hang in there, my friend~
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Lauren,
it was something that happen years ago. It took me awhile to forgive because we was real close, blood family and everyone though we was sisters, some even though twins. it was a lesson we both had to learn from it! đŸ™‚
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What forces relationships to break is peoples stubborn nature towards wanting something even though there is an entirely different story behind it. I have had similar situations and my friends know that i will tell them without mercy and make it clear “if you are going to walk then please walk, if you are going to stay then listen to me”. The pivotal point to a relationship is the entire basis upon which the relationship is established. If you cannot handle truth from your friends then i take it the relationship was superficial in the first place.
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Russell,
so glad to see a male share there opinion in this post. Its good to know a male would tell! Why I’m not surprise that you would! đŸ™‚
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That is soooo true Russell. Spot on mate, spot on!!!! I share the same sentiments exactly!!! Phew…gotta catch my breath there. Got a lil’ excited. đŸ˜€
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this is a tough one because knowing her the truth will definitely hurt her and the possibility your friendship will be ruined, but being friends we need to tell the truth particularly if u know exactly what was going on no matter we are going to hurt them coz I believed sooner or later she will realized that u did that because u love her …
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Willofheart,
I like what you said about being friends we need to tell the truth! I also know sometimes we got to go through something before we can actually listen and take heed!
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by the way hope u’re ok now? … have a great day PJ
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This is so hard. I know a lot of friend ships break up because one friend tell the beans. Part of me wants to tell them, the other part wants me to show them, and the other part says that it’s not my place. But again, if they are my friend then it is my place.
I think you did the right thing. You don’t want her getting hurt (any more) and heaven forbid his cheating could affect her health down the line. So you did do the right thing.
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KalleyC
good to see you in my love journey post đŸ™‚ I agree with you about it could affect her health down the line. You never know now a days! Thats how I was when I debated on this decision for awhile, it truly ate at me for the longest.
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I hurt with you for the loss of this friend, journey. As I have gotten older, I have found that I am NOT made a party to the misdeeds of other people’s mates because everyone knows I despise gossip. I always hold up my hand and tell them “I really am not the one who should be hearing this.” They know that I mean for them to tell the Lord about it, right? But a few times I have stumbled across actually witnessing someone “stepping out” on a friend. I simply encourage my friend to spend more quality time with their loved one, suggesting silly, imaginative things they might do to get their loved one to open up, to join them in some sheer fun, for a change! This has always resulted in one of the following:
1) The partner in the wrong, confesses, begs for another chance, is forgiven, etc.
2) The couple simply repair and improve their relationship and the partner in the wrong very discreetly ceases their misbehavior.
Either way, I am out of it. The two people involved are the ones appropriate resolving their own problems.
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Granbee,
it does hurt when you loss one. I like how you encourage them to spend more time together with one another. Okay I totally get what you saying! Something I never though of! Like the way you think đŸ™‚ Thank you for sharing your opinion! God Bless You đŸ™‚
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