Before I get all into my homework and go to doctor. Do I truly need to repeat myself with this post every time. You’ll see the title more than once, but with a number after it. 🙂
My question for today is HOW CAN WE MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK THATS LONG DISTANCE? Many reasons to have one, could be cause of your job or school or you could be fighting overseas. Lets not forget internet dating as well. Since my last two post had something to do with online dating. If you havent check them out, make sure to make your way to p.5 and Love Story Journey.
Every since I was younger.. cough 🙂 I have heard this so many times from a simple-minded person of course. Thats it’s not right or possible to have long distance relationship. In some cases it may be true, because some can’t stay faithful to save they life. No trust in relationship, no point in having one. I have heard many stories of people breaking up because their spouse/girl friend/boyfriend or away from them. I have seen & heard so many staying true to their relationship. When we away from the one’s we love we tend to miss out on a lot of things. If we have little one’s we don’t get to see them grow up, or be there for them when they come into the world.
So do tell me what you think on the topic at hand today. I love to hear what you all think 🙂 Something tells me I forgot something, but if someone bring it to my attention I’ll just answer it in comment or whatnot. God Bless 🙂
Poets Afterthought 
Yes, there are many long distance relationships that don’t work, but aren’t there just as many relationship right next door that don’t either.
A person has to follow their heart and be committed to a person for it to work. Do I think it will work out forever? Hmmmm that is a tough one. But I think a long distance relationship could work out while dating.
A person shouldn’t close a door based on distance alone.
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I agree with you! You hit the nail on the head with that feedback! Thank you for coming through and commenting! God Bless You 🙂 We never know what’s for us if we not willingly to give it a chance. So many times were in our comfort zone and it could be reason we miss out on opportunities.
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I must say, after hearing what Optimistic Mom had to say she…Well, really covered everything. Following your heart is always best and who knows where they will find love? You are really writing some interesting things on the this series PJ! 🙂
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Gabby, I must admit she did cover it all huh? Thank you, It feels good to actually get this topic going again. I didn’t think I would post every day in it, but long as I’m inspired to share! I’m down to go for it! Thank you for your encouragment and putting in your inputs! God Bless You 🙂
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I agree with Optimistic Mom. She nailed it! Just to speak on it from my view, I was in the Army and so was my husband. We dated and were separated due to deployments. It was a commitment of the heart and the character traits of a person adds to it. Like O.M. said, you can be right next door and STILL cheat. Relationships married or single takes effort. I’m proof of a military marriage on the positive side.
Raising 5 children under the age of 7 alone while my husband was deployed and/ or either working a lot took commitment just to keep it going. Not because of needing physical attention, but not allowing outside influence to come in and destroy what God out together. ( got married at age 21 and have been going strong 17.5 years so far! With God all things are possible as long as we stay in His will. ) People can’t become so quick to give up or give in to those temporary desires of the flesh from lack of time with the significant other. Honestly, who wants to keep jumping around from relationship to relationship without giving effort to one that could be long and lasting?!! Anything worth having is worth fighting for.
The key: Keep Christ as the foundation and build upon that. He will provide as long as you are willing to put forth effort.
God bless. Hope my input helps 🙂
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Terra,
I enjoyed reading your comment while I was out but couldnt really respond to now. You said a lot and I like what you had to say. I totally agree with the key: we got to have Christ as the foundation, without him we are lost. Wow You or truly a Strong Woman. I’m really glad you shared your story, because the guy she marry to is in the service or was in it. The guy who maybe in her life is in it as well. Anything possible when you got GOD on your side. We can’t have a good relationship without him. I beleive a lot of people tend to forget that. I love to hear how people stay together or should I say the years they been together and still going strong.
Actually while I was out I was thinking of more post to go here for this topic. God Bless You 🙂
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I think that long distant love can work, if there are enough intervals of being together in person mixed in. Eventually, someone is going to have to move if the relationship seems to be “THE ONE”, you know?
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True indeed Granbee! We just got to be willingly to take that chance! And not to rush into it! Thank you for sharing your opinions with me! 🙂
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I also agree with Optimistic Mom’s comment about following our hearts. I don’t think anyone can say what will or what won’t work, based on a black and white scenario. Doesn’t it depend on the 2 people involved? It takes commitment and trust and then, as Rose mentioned, someone will have to give, eventually, for “forever” to be plausible…a very good question to ponder! 🙂
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Lauren,
she did say it all! I have truly enjoyed reading everyone response. It does depend on the two people involved, I wish so many people would understand that and come to terms to it. So many seem to break up so many friendships and homes.I probably should share that in another post. I seem to keep getting inspired to carry on with the topic! YAY me! lol I agree with her! How many people or willingly to take that step? Now thats the question!
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I’m watching for your next post! You’re creating a book, as we read! 🙂
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Thank You for sharing your input of wisdom. I try and post on the topic on a daily basic. I don’t want to blow up anyone email account! I’m tryin got learn my limit to asking question. Now poetry on the other end, I can never go wrong! lol
I believe the next post on story will probably be one of my own experience. My newphew just ate all my Special K fruit crisps! 😦 They so good and he ate both of them. I eat one a day!
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I am also going to agree with Optimistic Mom 🙂 she did really say it all. I know without trust a relationship will never work, especially long distance. I followed by heart and I am so happy now 🙂 So really it does depend so much on the people. As my “darling man” says, “nothing is cared in stone” so we both just say how we feel always. Love takes work sometimes 😉
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Autumn,
thank you for commenting 🙂 I like that saying, I never did before. But I get what its saying now. And yes, it does take work. God Bless You 🙂
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OOps, I meant “nothing is carved in stone” !!! Lol, typo
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Truth is, long distance relationships do not work–maybe one out of every hundred. Trust is very important in any relationship and it is hard to build trust over long distance. There is no way to verify anything the other person tells. That could be dangerous.
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Noel,
Thank you for your input! I agree its very important! Takes me back to a poem I wrote call Trust. Thats true it isn’t, but with a relationship you got to have trust! I hope that made sense, not really feeling my best. I will double check once I’m feeling my best. God Bless 🙂
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I feel that it’s simple… if you have that true to the core, yoked equally compatibility, soul shaking energy and spiritually evoked emotional connectivity you can have one night with the person and forever be true to that moment, that day, that love. Trust love, trust God trust the embodiment of the heart and t is possible with nothing more of a reason than…. I love them…
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Ty Nyamonea for sharing your thoughts and I like what you had to say! God Bless 🙂
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You have to know this one caught my attention 😀
Well, I truly believe it can work, but there are more factors one must be careful with in the beginning as well as after things become more serious. Lies are more common in long distance relationships of course, maybe because it’s easier. One must be very careful as there will be the natural challenges of pain of distance and stress because relationships are meant to be together in person I believe. So, if other factors are added it becomes ridiculous trying to manage it.
I knew someone once I was willing to do ANYTHING for (and I proved it in my actions) because I believed all the words, revealed personality, etc. Then, after seeing consistent lies and true personality I watched someone transform from a potential partner of my dreams to the most hideous creature on this earth because of the inflicted pain. If someone wants to make something work they need to keep it real from the beginning in order to survive the natural challenges of the distance alone.
Take care PJ and God bless!
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Good to see more males sharing there opinion in this post 🙂 i agree if it going to work out need to be real from the getgo! So many start out good, but sometimes someone is lying from the get go when the other person is bn 100%. I believe distance can work out myself. Long as the two involve can be honest and have trust! Sorry for how your experience went Scott. God Bless You for sharing your experince in this Journey of Love
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They can work but take a huge commitment and effort to visit and stay in communication … perhaps too much work. 😉
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Eliz,
you made a good point, sometimes it does seem like it takes to much work!
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